Comments on: TCK: Saying Goodbye to Friends Pt. I

By: Katie Louise

Katie Louise — Sat, 08 Feb 2014 17:35:00 +0000

yes I agree with your mother x so cards and email and Skype and fb come in handy especially for those abroad x

By: Katie Louise

Katie Louise — Sat, 08 Feb 2014 17:33:00 +0000

hi everyone x I have recently had my friendship with my ‘best friend’ ended but you would expect me to be heart broken but to be honest I was relieved x the girl and myself have been mutual friends since year 10 and I have repetitively shown her how much our relationship mattered to me that I had to face the fact she did not care or feel as strongly as me x
I would confess the most hurtful aspect of losing a friend is confessing to yourself that your relationship is over and has not been how it was been before, despite your best efforts to fix it. x
I am 18 and have only had 3 best/ close friends but those friends changed and drifted away as I went to college. Now in my second year and last I have met more people and form more relationships x
basically as much as the separation between yourself and your friend has affected you, how you respond will determine how you will go on x
the positive thing to do is realise you had your moments (great memories good and bad) but now you must grow and we are surrounded by people so you will never be lonely x The problem is being able to be alone to think x so do not dwell on that friend who has left think upon it as another chapter finished and a new more exciting one to begin x
hope u feel happier x knowing even at the age of 18 it will happen x but life will get better just u need to be the one to start it rolling x

By: Bonnie Rose

Bonnie Rose — Tue, 09 Apr 2013 19:44:25 +0000

Thank you Kristin! I know I need to let go more, I just have this overwhelming sense to not let anyone down. I feel like I can be an awesome friend to anyone who needs or wants one, and I hate to be anything less. Multiply that by how many people I've met in my life and I see how thats not an equation that will work out.

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By: Bonnie Rose

Bonnie Rose — Tue, 09 Apr 2013 19:33:41 +0000

Rachel,

So glad to make friends with another TCK blogger. I am really like the Canopi site so far after two days. How are you liking it?

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By: Rachel

Rachel — Sun, 07 Apr 2013 20:14:55 +0000

I’m an adult TCK too–and friendships–saying goodbye–dang, that’s so, so hard. My Mom once described what leaving our friends was like, and she said, “It’s like they’re plunging in the knife and they just keep twisting it!” because the pain doesn’t really go away. I’m American, but I consider my “home” Malaysia–and every single day I miss it. But it really is so common to fully lose touch with people if you move away and never go back. Still, the friendships are worth it.
I found your blog through canopi! It’s nice to meet you!

By: kristin

kristin — Fri, 05 Apr 2013 16:24:43 +0000

I love the scale you invented! It’s sad but its so true. I want to keep all the friends I’ve made but with so many moves its impossible. I’ve had to learn to let go of all of that, the anxiety and stress of trying to keep up with everything, and it’s been a blessing.