Comments on: I am Scared of Losing You

By: Georgie

Georgie — Wed, 08 May 2013 13:01:55 +0000

This really resonated with me. Four years ago, when I was 18, my father died very suddenly too – he suffered a huge heart attack (from an undiagnosed heart condition). This was made all the harder because, like your father, my father was away a lot – he had to take a job 400 miles away and was only home on the weekends. It took such a long time for me to not unconsciously expect him home every weekend, and to not look forward to Friday night. 11 months later my grandmother died in a similar way. From that moment on, I was terrified that I was going to lose everyone I loved. It’s a horrible fear, and it’s taken years to conquer it. But I realised that if I didn’t try to not think about it, it would control my life and the lives of the people I loved. You have to trust that the people you love will be safe. But it’s so hard to place trust in the fact that 99% of the time, people will be fine, if you’ve been affected by the 1%. It’s still my greatest fear, but I’m trying to live with it. xox
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By: Erika @ CHiMERiKAL.com

Erika @ CHiMERiKAL.com — Wed, 08 May 2013 00:34:20 +0000

Wow, your fear of bikes is completely founded! I'm so sorry!

As for being alone, I used to fear that so much. Maybe I still do, in some senses. In some ways, the past year of my life has made me confront that fear and I guess I'm not so scared because I'm learning that in some ways, we're never alone. But I totally get what you're saying and still struggle with it.

As for the other stuff -- losing people -- yes, yes, yes... that's definitely high on my fear list. Which is very long, haha.

By: Bonnie Rose

Bonnie Rose — Tue, 07 May 2013 13:31:37 +0000

Thank you Amanda. It def can be a stressful life as a family member of the military. I know Ryan will be really safe, I just hope all the drivers out there are safe too.
x

By: Bonnie Rose

Bonnie Rose — Tue, 07 May 2013 13:31:19 +0000

that is so neat that your husband is the same way. It really must be some sort of way the brain helps in stressful situations. I know there was a lot of times it was just my mum and my sister and I but honestly my best memories are when my dad was there. Thank you for sharing! x

By: Living in Another Language

Living in Another Language — Tue, 07 May 2013 10:59:24 +0000

I felt your pain with your dad. Sounds like we grew up in similar situations with our dads being gone all the time with deployment. I am so thankful and blessed to have mine still in my life. Thank you for your honesty in this post!

That is INSANELY crazy about the bike thing. How strange. I'd feel the same way if I were you if MY husband was riding a bike to work! Yikes. Sounds like he's taking as many safety precautions as he can.

-Amanda | Living in Another Language

By: hemborgwife

hemborgwife — Tue, 07 May 2013 10:23:54 +0000

It is very interesting how you said you blocked out many of the times of your dad being gone, my father in law is in the military here in Sweden and I feel that my husband has done the same thing about his childhood. When I have asked questions about how his mom did things with his dad gone he often cannot even remember those times even though he was gone.