Comments on: Marriage, Inlaws and Cross Cultural Issues

By: Bonnie Rose

Bonnie Rose — Sun, 22 Sep 2013 16:41:27 +0000

And I know what you mean regarding inlaws and cross cultural issues

By: Bonnie Rose

Bonnie Rose — Sun, 22 Sep 2013 16:40:12 +0000

This post has made me so happy, because I feel to blame regarding our lifestyle. It wasn’t until I learned the TCK term from your blog that I realized I wasn’t alone in needing to ‘find home’. Also funny enough my husband is even more of a traveler now than I am ( which is stunning) as I get panic attacks when on planes with my daughter ( scared her insane tantrums will be unleashed in a confined space!!) so it isn’t as enjoyable as it once was. I long for finding home, an accepting and multicultural place. Funny enough I am a huge Murder She Wrote fan and the fictional town Cabot Cove is so alluring to me, as the people are friendly and are characters. I’ve always hoped to find a place like that, but have yet to. Most probably because it’s fictional

By: Sara Louise

Sara Louise — Tue, 25 Jun 2013 06:56:34 +0000

How wonderful that your sister is able to celebrate with you! I’m sure she that her love and support on the day means the world to you

By: Quinn @ Kimchi and Sweet Tea

Quinn @ Kimchi and Sweet Tea — Fri, 21 Jun 2013 12:54:55 +0000

Wow! So many things you wrote in this post ring so true in my life. My dad's family comes from old money in a southern state & live by the motto 'If the silver is polished. . . ' - this isn't a real motto, it's something said in my family to describe acting like nothing happened. Short story to sum up that motto: My dad's mom walked in on my dad's dad sleeping with another woman. Instead of canceling Thanksgiving dinner the next night, my grandmother polished the silver and set the table - they are still married today after many more of these instances. My mom comes from a family where they talked through everything.. My mom still doesn't understand my dad's family & my parents are now divorced. Fortunately for me, I was exposed to both of these family dynamics and learned a great deal

All of this prepared me for my own marriage. My in-laws are Korean and don't speak much English. We joke that I know more about the Korean culture than my husband because I have done so much research to try to understand my. inlaws. We also joke that if my mother in law could speak English, we would definitely not get along. Koreans place so much value on male offspring (I have 2 girls) and women aren't really out spoken. . . compared to American culture - Everybody has an opinion and lets you know it.

All of this to say: Love the post! Sounds like you get it and those kids of yours are going to be the most well-adjusted kids on the planet! good job momma!

Happy 10 years (in a few weeks)

By: Amanda

Amanda — Fri, 21 Jun 2013 04:09:00 +0000

I’m always so thankful that my immediate family gets along. I definitely don’t take it for granted that I have great in-laws either. I really admire that you are trying to make things different for your kids.

By: Erika @ CHiMERiKAL.com

Erika @ CHiMERiKAL.com — Fri, 21 Jun 2013 01:25:35 +0000

You know, it’s so funny the timing of this post… because I can definitely relate to this. My family is much smaller, but I still get this. I think my nomadic nature can make people feel dizzy sometimes, or make it seem like I don’t take life seriously. It’s a challenge sometimes. Also, I love when you open up on your blog! You are very honest, you don’t sugarcoat, and I think it’s part of what makes you stand out!

–Erika
http://www.chimerikal.com

By: lost in travels

lost in travels — Thu, 20 Jun 2013 01:56:47 +0000

you are one of the strongest women i know.i can’t imagine how difficult it would be to have such strife in your family and to know that one of the people who dint’ participate in that is now gone. i’m so sorry to hear ll of this, it’s so unfortunate. i hope that you have a beautiful day and i love reading through the things that you’ve learned. i think that’s one of the most important things. that we can survive hard times and learn something through it.