I Miss My Daddy

Day 12, Sunday of  the Challenge: What do you miss?

 I miss my Daddy. In August 2008 he was hit on his bicycle by a young driver, Faith Quick, under the influence of drugs with a prior record. She was never official charged for his death and spent just a few days in jail for the drug use. My father served 30+ years in the USAF, was a Veteran of Foreign Wars, and until his death was a teacher at Accelerated Learning Laboratory in Tucson, AZ.  He rode his bicycle to and from work to be eco friendly.  He is one of many who have been killed on bicycles by cars or buses.  I miss him a lot, and I really wish I could get the time back that was stolen from us, and from my sons. 

This is the last photo I had the opportunity of taking of him (July 4th, 2007) and fortunately it was with both of his grandsons. He had come to Oahu for a few weeks to visit after the birth of my son Maddox. 

At our home in Ewa Beach my dad read to my son Ronan with their long hair and in their Aloha Shirts. 

Dinner at Duke’s in Waikiki my son Maddox Charles with his namesake, Grandpa Charles aka ‘Grandpa Chuckles’. 

Two years after his funeral we returned to the USAF Academy in Colorado to visit my Dad in 2010.

It was the last time I have been able to visit his final resting place at the USAF Academy in Colorado Springs. 
Diary entry from my nine year old self back on the 6th of March, 1991 about how 
much I missed my daddy who was fighting in the Gulf War with the USAF. 

“March 6, 1991: It’s been over three months since Daddy has been in the Gulf. I really miss him. I’m not sure what I’m going to do first when Daddy comes home. Right now the time is 7:51 pm. I can’t wait! Wait! Until Daddy comes home!” 

(spelling corrected so you can read to understand)
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  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/10282427768935973822 erica @ to the sea

    So so so so sad. :( I don’t even know what I’d do if I lost my Daddy. Sorry, hun.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/17321392126360255031 Alice

    This is so sad. I can’t even imagine how awful losing him must be. Thank goodness he got to meet both of your sons though, and you have such lovely photos of him with them. It makes me so angry that the driver was never charged for his death- I can’t even imagine how you must feel about it. Huge amounts of love to you. xx

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/07435722126028910012 simone antoniazzi

    What a beautifully written post and what a terrible loss. It makes me so furious when I read of these cases where no one was charged and I always think of the family and how unfair it is….well, unfair is nowhere near strong enough a word. It’s a disgrace that this can happen. I am so sorry.

    You must be very proud of your father and how lovely to look at those photos of him with your sons.

    Sending best wishes from London XX

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/03340277403271465452 lost in travels

    i’m so sorry friend, i can’t even imagine losing a parent. what a beautifully written post dedicated to him!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/08558475767119850748 Vanisha @ Vanishas Life In…Australia

    This broke my heart, I’m giving you a big hug lovely. My dad stopped talking to me a few years ago and it really does feel like he is gone… I feel so much that I would like to express to your about your post but I can’t find the words. Here’s a *hug* instead xoxox

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/18296104664782295059 Lola Rose

    I am so sorry for your loss and what you had to go through. The photos are beautiful, he sounds like a great man xoxo

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/09764407894048219638 Catriona Munnik

    This is such a beautifully written post and I am so sorry about your Dad.

    Sending you hugs from South Africa.


  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/00503002844966618849 The Bradleys

    I am so sorry your father passed away, I know the pain too well: my Dad died when I was 19. He never got to meet my husband nor daughter which hurts me badly.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02962518235373699918 Laura Side Street

    This is such a wonderful post and I am sure he is looking down and smiling, I know just how you feel, my father was killed in 2004 when people broke into the house in South Africa, I was in the UK and felt helpless and it hurts know he will never get to meet his grandchildren. It’s one of those awful things, especially when people are just going about their daily business like your dad and mine and then suddenly they are taken away. The best thing I find is to keep remembering them, thats how we keep them alive and involved in our lives. Lovely post and my thoughts go out to you.

    Laura x

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/06058056977783867772 Sara Louise

    I’m so sorry that you lost your father in such a tragic way. He sounds like he was a wonderful Dad :)
    I miss my father too x