Hello from the Other Side


Hello it’s me. I have been hiding behind the best intentions to make my blogspace a place it had been once before. In eleven years of it’s existance now it has seen different levels of activity. I loved the year I blogged every day and had time to tweet and comment and read blog posts of my blogger friends. It was wonderful being a part of such a diverse community and where the expression ‘it is a small world’ rang true.

I write these words to say hello.
To say that I miss you
Even though I have been more silent
I have been reading your posts
Your comments
Hearing your voice.

Thank you for keeping Travel Tuesday going
For being here.
For coming back.


Even in the town you live in, how easily you can lose track of people that were in your life. People can come and go just as quickly as we can come and go from place to place.  I just had a conversation with someone recently whom I had done a project with months after moving to Bath. They asked about the job I had been at two jobs previously. Despite being fcebook friends we had not really kept in touch that well and we both live in the same city.

It was then I realised I would have a facebook friends clearout. When I started I had over 900 friends.  A good half of them are people I went to school with across nine diferent schools. There are the family friends, church friends, camp friends, military friends, and other people in a misc group of people I have met along the way. The actual friends I have made in various countries and states across the US. The online friends I keep in contact with. Co workers from past jobs or creatives I have worked with as a hairdresser, makeup artist, and/or photographer.  There are times it is someones birthday in facebook and I have to click their profile and do sleuthing to who they are.

It can be overwhelming when you want to invite local people to an event, and see all the people who live to far away, especially when you wish most they could be there. Or when you really need to call a friend up for coffee but realise the friends in facebook, on top of distance, havent really been in the loop if everything going on in your life recently. Facebook while vital to keep in contact in the modern age (and to log into other apps) can make it a lonely place.


I have been clearing out facebook of aquaintances and friends that may have little connection with anymore. If I think we could have a convo and have everything come back like no time has passed, if we have been through something together, if we communicate through social media, etc than Ive kept them. I am not the same person I was 15 years ago and many friends I realise we would have nothing in common. I honestly feel this is going to help my heart and soul. Already people I want to see on my newsfeed are popping up more.

Ive taken breaks from social media before. It always feels good to disconnect. So why not clear out the social mindfield that bombards you everytime you pick up your phone.

Especially if you feel you cant be yourself because you dont know wbo does see your posts.

Have you ever felt the need to do this?

I end this by saying if I did delete you and you do feel it is a loss, message me and lets rebuild the friendship.

  • http://www.adventurings.com Cynthia

    Happy to see a new post from you! I do feel like this sometimes… particularly with Facebook, a medium which mostly scares the crap out of me to know that someone I had a class with once ten years ago is reading about my daily life stuff. Buuuut it has proven itself so good for connections and rekindling friendships that I find myself holding back. People take Facebook really personal… if anything, I’ve restricted who exactly can see my posts and just moved personal stuff to IG or Twitter.

  • Miriam Pinkston

    I’d feel a loss!

  • Becca Osborn

    <3 <3 <3 Dude, I totally get this, and I so appreciate your honesty. I think social media *can* make it easier to perpetuate friendships that have already run their course. Saying goodbye can be hard, but you're right – it's not personal…it's just the way things go. You wish people the best and let them go. <3

    I'm going through a similar period with blogging, so you aren't alone! I think I want to do something different with my blog, but I'm still figuring out what that looks like and how to make that happen. We can cheer each other on. :)