Day 25, Saturday: Something someone told you about yourself that you’ll never forget (good or bad)
This is a candid of myself in front of the same Union Jack flag back when we were stationed in Monterey, California in 2005. At this time my husband and I had been married for only two years and had one son under a year old. Still a young married woman and a new mum. My husband had just joined the military and was in his technical training stage. Basically back when this photo was taken we were both so young and in new stages of our lives. Things that would make me sad, get me anxious, or stress me out back then all seem so trivial now. My biggest gripe back then was figuring out to schedule family time with my husbands crazy school and study schedule with the military and dealing with what to do with all things my MIL sent me that I did not need. It was a different time in my life and I’m not sure what I would tell myself if I could go back in time.
Two years later we were stationed in Hawaii and welcoming our second son. Then all the hard times would hit us like an unexplained storm ready to leave us in the wreckage. Being so far away from any ‘home’ and people for support I owe my darkest hours to a friend many miles away. She was my mentor and role model growing up and had always been so strong in my eyes. Now seeing what she has had to go through I really feel blessed to have had her wise words through email during my hardest times. While I keep those words and emails private, she has said something to me during the time frame of this portrait below that I have kept written out to remind me when I am having a bad day. I think especially as mothers we can feel that we are expected to be superwomen. To be perfect in every way, to let no one down, and make no mistakes. However she has constantly reminded me how much we can do for our families and for our children by just loving them with all our hearts. It does not matter what the rest of the world says or does, if you have love, share love and give love you become the glue to hold it all together.
“I am so proud of you Bonnie. I know life is difficult and there are severe problems at times, but you are so courageous and strong to hold it all together and hold everyone together. I am learning from my own kids around me, that it doesn’t matter how much we mess up or how bad, just that we love them, love those around us. We are the glue that holds it all together and God gives us that blessing.”
– my friend
Thank you to my beautiful, sweet, and loving friend. You are so strong and you have been the strength for me when I thought I had nothing left. You helped with words of wisdom and scripture to help guide me through the darkest times. In all honesty I would not be here today with my family if I did not have you in my life. Thank you for caring so much about me, especially when it seemed no one else did. I love you!