bachelor Archives - A Compass Rose

I am not one to do weekly recap posts on television shows and my husband will probably skip reading my blog today once he reads ‘bachelorette’ mentioned. I began watching with season two of the Bachelor and then with season one of the spin off, the Bachelorette while I was engaged. Fast forward to today and that is a decade of watching a show with generally the same plot, just new characters. To be fair I would rather watch the Bachelorette over the Bachelor any day. Guys all vying over one girl vs a season full of catfights. No competition there. Why do I get sucked into it every season?

The dates? The romance? The premise that you can find your soul mate?

My favourite thing about the show is watching their dates in far off countries. Especially when they go places where I want to travel, places I have been, and those that hold a special place in my heart. The last two episodes of The Bachelorette have touched me because of the locations. Since this blog highlights on travels I would like to touch on the two places and why they mean so much to me.

On the Bachelorette Season 9 Episode 4, Desiree goes to Seaside Heights on a date and gives her date to a lovely couple whose house was hit by Hurricane Sandy. I actually stopped watching this episode when it got to this point. I continued watching it this week before starting the new episode. It was hard to watch. Seeing all the devastation from their view up in the helicopter. Harder to imagine that we were just there for a summer vacation with my family last August. We had gone there a few times growing up as my father’s dad lived nearby in Newark. He loved to take us to the boardwalk when we visited every few years from Europe. You may have even read my posts about Seaside Heights and the Jersey Shore. My husband has yet to go to New Jersey and my sons really want him to experience the summer staying at the beach house, walking minutes to the ocean, and enjoying the the fun, food, and games on the Seaside Heights board walk of the Jersey Shore. I hope that despite the tragedy this wonderful place can be restored to an even better state than it was before. So that many more can cherish the same memories at the shore.

This week’s episode Desiree took the men to Munich, Germany. A city I love so much and a country I used to live in for a few years. I was watching every second with a huge amount of wanderlust. I have been on that same mountain top that they were on and have been snowboarding in the Alps many times. It is the place of so many happy memories with my father and going on snowboarding adventures together as a family and with our friends. It was actually my first location choice for our vow renewal because of how special of a place it is for my family. I honestly cannot wait for the day that my husband can whisk us away to southern Bavaria.

Being married for just about ten years with eight and six year old sons, date nights with just my husband and I are few and far between. We have had friends watch our kids or have had arrangements set up when we were both working. But we have never had an actual babysitter who we could regularly call up so we could go on frequently schedule date nights. It is something I wish could be changed in the next ten years. My husband by far wins with who has gone out with other adults more during our time here in England.

I have been out with my husband for his Uni function (so not a one on one date), once with his Uni friends without Ryan (to get me out of the house), a girls night out with my friend from Hawaii who was visiting in London, and a girls night out in Bath with a fellow expat. Other than that if I go out it is with the whole family in tow. I think that is why I still watch the Bachelor/Bachelorette because I live vicariously through their dates. I know not everyone gets the London Eye shut down for their date or a famous band to serenade them for dancing in the city streets, but I still like the idea of sweeping a girl off her feet. That and who would not want to just jet across the world to visit a new country just for a date?

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I cherish my photographs from our vacation last summer at Seaside Heights on the Jersey shore even more after Hurricane Sandy hit and destroyed a place of such found memories. Since the passing of my father I take photos of everything because I never know what I will not have the chance to photograph again. Even now going through old photo files on external drives, you will never hear me say ‘I wish I took less photos’. If anything looking back at old photographs I wish I knew back then what I know now about photography, composition, and lighting. I definitely wish I had more photographs of my father and more photographs of all the places I have lived and travled through out the world. While majority of those I can not or not easily take photos of now, I have also realised I do not have a lot of photographs of my husband and I together. Since that is something I can change I have been working hard and on making sure we tackle that feat this year. Photographs are truly precious to me.

Question: What past moment in your life would you most like to have a photo of?

I asked this same question to my sponsors and here were their answers:

Jessica Lynn: “If I could have a photo from any past moment in my life it would definitely be one of me, my mom, and my week-old daughter together. It was just three months ago, but I regret not taking a picture of the three of us when she came out to visit.“

Tara: “I can’t think of one specific moment, but in general, more photos of me and my parents. I lost both my parents last year and it was sad to realize I could count the number of photos, after the age of 14 (and I am 27, by the way), of me with one or both of them on one hand! I photograph
EVERYTHING now!“

Rachel: “I’d love to have a photo of the first kiss between me and my boyfriend.”

Tammy: “The moment I met my hubby. that moment our eyes locked on each other.“

Melyssa: “I’d like to have a photo of my nana making me mac & cheese. I don’t even really like mac & cheese, but because she always used to make it for me, I associate that memory with the feeling of home. It was never about the mac & cheese, it was just about her love. I’d like a picture of that.“

Lisa Ng: “I would love a photo of the first time I held my son. I have plenty photos afterward, but just not the very first time.“

Thank you to my lovely sponsors for taking the time to participate today. Make sure you check out the blogs of these wonderful ladies and I’ll ask the same question to you, my reader, below:

Q: What past moment in your life would you most like to have a photo of?

The video I am about to share with you is connected to a part of my life from 2001 – 2004 when I lived in the south of the USA. Culture shock was inevitable. Having a guy move from behind me to quickly open a door in front of me so I could go through was a new example in chivalry to me. I remember being confused and shocked the first few times doors were opened for me. Still it seems to be something that I have not quite experienced as much else where in the world. On base in Hawaii I was leaving a building a step ahead of Andy from the Bachelor (remember the Navy officer?). I was struggling with a door while carrying my baby and my shopping bag and thought he might help me with the door, instead of waiting for me to figure it out on my own. Still to this day I just assume he was really stressed out that day or trying to not run into crazed bachelor fans as a reason for his monetary aloofness. It is just another facet of my life where its interesting to see how cultures differ and what is expected in one country may not be so in another.

WILLIE ROBERTSON AT HARDING UNIVERSITY

A friend shared this video of Willie Robertson, from Duck Dynasty, talking last year during chapel at Harding University. This is the school that I went to after high school graduation to pursue a major in theatre with a minor in missions. It is located in small town of Searcy, outside Little Rock, Arkansas. This is a town where I met my husband, where we got married, and where I gave birth to our first son.

To be fair I do not usually mention Arkansas as one of the places I have lived in the US. No offense to any of my readers from ‘the Natural State’ because my Uni campus was like a whole other world inside. It is referred to as the ‘Harding Bubble’. A private christian university in a dry county (forbids the sale of alcohol) it was not the same college experience by those who may have gone to a state school for their college years. Instead of fraternities or sororities we had social clubs, which were essentially the same thing without extreme hazing, drinking, or dancing. My favourite thing about this school was its focus on missions as I grew up in small missionary based churches in europe. Thanks to Harding I was able to do an overseas summer mission to Australia and through its connections to Let’s Start Talking, my husband and I went to Thailand.

I am a believer in fate and it is why I know my husband and I were meant to meet each other during my freshman year. I had found out about this university initially from other Harding alum as they visited my church in Italy, or stayed at our house, while spending a semester at one of the Harding’s overseas campuses. They have one in Florence and one in Greece and there always seemed to be someone sporting a Harding t-shirt or ball cap through out my time in Europe. It is how I found out about the summer camp, near the university, that I attended during my high school years.

To bring this back to the video above, I have not yet watched the show Duck Dynasty. The whole world of the south, the love of hunting, wearing camo to any occasion aside from military life, and sporting any clothing or head pieces that bare the American flag have always seemed a bit foreign to me. To the fact that the last time I was in the south at a Walmart I counted how many people were wearing camo as a game to pass the time. To be honest if someone were to tell me they were taking me hunting my mind would be first to envision men wearing an outfit that included tweed plus fours, a waist coast, jacket and cap. Plus dogs would be acquired as well on the walk through the country. Then again I lived in England twice as a small girl and grew up having photos of the royal family on my dresser.

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When my friend posted the video I felt inclined more to watch it because of my connection to Harding and I was interested to see why Willie Robertson had been asked to speak in chapel. As I listened I found out he had attended Harding too and from there I was intrigued to hear his story. I have to say it was his words, his heart, and his personality in the chapel presentation that has made me want to watch Duck Dynasty now. Or at least to see a few episodes to see if the man I saw speaking at my university is portrayed the same in the show. From the words he spoke about being true to yourself, I would assume my presumption would be correct. From talking to my mum, who likes the show, and thinking ‘ehhh, thats not really my cup of tea‘ to being surprised has made enough of an impression on me to write a blog post about it.

Q: Have you seen this show and did you like or dislike it? Why? Or share with me a moment you were surprised in another culture, from your former preconceived notions.

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