Monthly Archives: April 2013

Travel: Athens, Greece

Travel Tuesday and I am taking you back to Athens, Greece with me.  This was one of my favourite trips when I was growing up because it was my first time in a different without my parents.  We were currently living in Stuttgart Germany where I attended Patch American high school for seventh and eight grade.  One summer while we were there I joined the teen group to Athens, Greece.  What made it really special was I got to go with my best friend Hamishe.  Her family is Greek and her mother was leading our group.
Traveling to Athens, Greece was almost as fun as the time we spent in the city itself.  We drove from where we lived in southern Germany into Italy and took a ferry across the Adriatic sea to Greece. Nothing like sunbathing on the ferry to get ready for the amazing adventure  that awaits.  In lieu of staying in a hotel we camped on the the beach which to this day is one of my favourite camping trips.  The views were beautiful and the water was so clear that you could see and count the ripples of the sand on the ocean floor below.  Of course we tried a lot of new foods and ate quite a lot of gyros.  There were the occasional things you do not plan on when traveling into another country.  We had to get off the trolleybus when a cable snapped free and stopped working.  One of the girls with us got really sick and we had to take a detour to the hospital.  Then there was the shopoholic (me) who spent all her money and had nothing to eat but peanut butter and crackers (that my mum packed me) by the time we got the greek ferry back to Italy.  
I have shoe boxes filled of photographs and in times of nostalgia go through them over and over again. They are much different from the photographs I take today with a DSLR and years of professional photograpy experience under my belt. They may not clearly show the food we ate or acurately show of the sites to see when traveling.  But these photographs below are memories of my childhood. A childhood I spend living and traveling abraod as a third culture kid.  Enjoy. 

Would love to hear your thoughts!  
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Helene in Between
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Doing the Laundry – UK vs. USA

Self Portrait by Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnieroseblog.co.uk
One day I got dressed up, did my hair, put on my make up, and got in the tub. Only to turn the shower on to capture my weekly self portrait.  To wear wet clothes in the shower is an odd experience to say the least.  While this was a fun artistic endeavor, my experience with dealing with wet clothes is a weekly occurrence.  
Let me introduce you to this Expat’s guide to Doing the Laundry in the UK vs the USA.  
VOCABULARY LESSON:
UK vs. USA
  • Washing powder = Detergent 
  • Clothes peg = Clothes pin
  • Linen basket = Hamper

I came to the realisation in writing this post that there are pros and cons to how you do laundry in both countries.  I have heard the complaints of US expats in England and UK expats in America.  I have also done my own laundry in both countries.  Here is my personal experience and take on the laundry situation and differences.
1. Size & Location. Just as America has oversized cars and food portions they also have the largest washing and drying machines.  Though today they have some more streamlined versions (or ones that stack nicely on top of each other) they are still very large.  If we are talking about a standard american sized home there is usually a designated space for these monstrous large laundry machines.  That could mean the basement or in its own designated room.  I have experienced having mine also in the kitchen, but tucked away in its own closet behind doors. In England I have most often found them only in the kitchen.  However in our current home our machine (Singular. More on that soon) is on the opposite wall of our stove, in the back hallway next to our refrigerator.  In our last flat our machine was in the kitchen, tucked away under the counter top, and very small.  Though we have never had the luxury of a dishwasher in England they are quite small too. My expat friend has one in her kitchen and the size lends itself to look like a child’s kitchen toy. 
This is our tiny  2-1washing machine from our flat.  The size of the door is about the size of the capacity inside.
Do not be fooled by the large rectangular shape, because it is not the Tardis. It is much smaller on the inside. 
2. Load Sizes. Since the machines are more compact in England then it is only simple math that the loads will be smaller too.  For a girl who used to stuff her american washing machine with a very full load that is a huge size difference compared to what I can do in England.  I also learned the hard way that you cannot ‘stuff’ the machine.  Clothes will not get washed properly and cleaned unevenly. Not all washing machines are the same size here.  In fact our machine in our last flat was the smallest I have ever used.  Which takes us to the next point.
3. The ‘2 in 1′ Machine.  I mentioned the very small washing machine in my last flat.  It was confusing and no manuals or google searches were making it any easier.  I would choose a setting for the specific load like I would in the US.  The door locked, it washes, it dries and it takes hours.  We could only put one towel in the machine if we wanted to not ‘waste’ the drying process.  To wait so many hours just for two outfits, compared to one load was not making me very happy.  Luckily we eventually figured out a trick.  We would put the clothes on the ‘quick wash & dry’ which would wash the clothes and dry them.  They would not be dry. So then choose a drying setting to finish up the job. However it still took much longer to dry for such a small load. When I took the clothes out they still felt damp and very, very hot.  I have burned myself on metal clasps on the garments taking them out.  I then put the clothes out to dry on a drying rack and in an hour or so the small load should be dry. Unless there were too many clothes or I chose not to use the drying setting. Then it could take days. 
4. Hot & Cold Water Hookups. From what I can tell in America you have both hot and cold water hookups to the washing machine and in England that is not necessarily the case.  More often you will only have cold water hookup, with the unused hot water valve caped off.  If that is the case the the washing machine warms up the water to the desired temperature selected.  In America the water is not heated by the machine but by the water supply in the building.  I also wanted to add that my current washing machine actually drains the used water into the utility sink that is next to it. 
This is our slightly bigger washing machine, does not dry, which drains into the utility sink.
It shares a wall with our stove. 
5. Top and Front Loading Machines.  While there are definitely exclusions to this rule in America, most machines are top loading.  Which means you put in the laundry from the top of the machine while in England the machines are front loading.  Though it can be easier for clothes to spill out on the floor when you take clothes out of a front loading machine, I favour it over top loading.  Mainly because in the top loading machines in America you have what is called an agitator.  It is the piece in the middle of the machine that looks like a pole.  I cannot tell you how many spaghetti strap shirts and other garments I have had ruined or tanged on the agitator while living in Hawaii.  To me it seems like a design flaw. 
6. Wet vs. Really Wet.  The clothes I would take out of my washing machine in America, to put into the dryer, were always quite wet.  The clothes out of washing machines in England come out less wet and so then dry faster on the line in comparison.  From research I have found it boils down to the voltage.  America runs off of 110 volts and the UK runs off of 220 volts which makes the spin function better or worse depending on which you use.  This is definitely one issue that unless you have used both machines in both countries, you may not fully understand the difference. 
7.  Dryers are a Luxury.  In America I have had the luxury of having a dryer next to my washing machine.  Always. Heaven forbid the dryer breaks on someone because in America it is only the ‘hippies’ who put their clothes outside to dry.  While this is just a mentality believed by some in the USA, it is not a view shared by those in the UK.  More often than not people will think less of you for having a tumble dryer because they really spike the utility costs in the UK.  Our current home does not have a dryer so we seek other options for our clothes when they come out of the washing machine.
This is one of two drying racks that we use inside and outside to dry our clothes.  It compacts when not in use.
When in use it takes up a lot of space. However this one takes up less pace than are more horizontal version. 
8. Energy Efficient.  It is normal for someone in America to do laundry at any hour of the day. In the UK it is more efficient and saves money to do it during a certain time of day. Electricity is cheaper from 11pm to 6am and is when most people will set their machine to work.  Also in Europe washing machines display an EU Energy Label with grades for efficiency.  This helps consumers in the UK to buy more efficient washing machines. Now in America they say ‘Time is money’ and it does seem to take most of my time to do any of our washing and drying.  I honestly feel that people are more environmentally conscious in Europe than back in America where things like electricity can be taken for granted. 

9. Drying Clothes Outside. As I said more often than not people dry their clothes in a dryer in America.  For those that do like line dry outside, may still use a dryer for items like bedding, towels, and undergarments.  If you had to choose between a soft towel and a crunchy towel, which would you prefer?  However in England line drying is a common practice.  It is a luxury in its own for those who have a garden (‘yard’ for my American readers).  In our last flat with the small washing machine we did not have a garden.  We also were not allowed to hang any clothes from the windows or have our laundry visible clearly from the windows because it is unsightly. Now that we we have a garden I can hang my clothes outside.  But lets be practical and remember that I do live in England.  Where the temperature is usually cold and it rains a lot. I tried just moving my drying rack outside so the clothes could get fresh air back in January.  Did not matter that there was no rain in sight, the cold air would not aid in the drying process.  So after hours I brought my clothes back inside just as wet as they were before. 

Wrinkled from the small washing machine I put the clothes out to dry on racks on the radiator.
Those trousers will have to be ironed later. 
10. Drying Clothes Inside. In America this would imply that you use an electric dryer.  Or for clothes that are more delicate or prone to wrinkling you may hang it up and let it air dry. There may be some clothes drying adapted radiators available, but usually central heating is involved in American homes.  In England we have varying size radiators in every room except our kitchen and one in the hallway.  We are two short since those ones do not seem to be working.  However the others do a fantastic job and helping to dry our clothes.  If I do my kids uniforms at night before bed I can draper them over the radiators and go to bed. In the morning their outfits are dry, usually warm and ready to wear.  We have our radiators set on a timer and they go off at certain times in the 24 hour period.  I know when they go on and so plan my washing accordingly.  We also have these neat racks I can place on the radiator so that I dry a few more garments than I could without them. If I am trying to get a lot of clothes dry or drying bigger items like bedding and towels I have to use drying racks.  It can literally take up to three days to dry these items especially if the weather is cold.  Plus they take up a lot of room and you are constantly side stepping around them and hoping not to knock of laundry on the floor. 
Extra tidbit from an Expat in the UK:  I do spend a lot of time multi tasking and trying to remember to go back to other tasks. This includes always checking the weather in case I need to put clothes outside or take them back inside.  I am constantly having to open windows, to prevent mold, and remembering to go back later to close them again. Especially if it starts raining. For my clothes on the dryer I periodically go around and flip them over like pancakes so they get dry evenly on both sides. 

In Summary there are differences between doing the laundry in the UK vs in the USA. I do miss my american sized dryer so much. However I do not think I could ever have one here because I know how expensive it would be to use it and then it would just be taking up so much space with its large size. In the UK I do love being eco friendly compared to wasting resources, money, energy, etc. However I would like to figure out a better system of having all my laundry done at once. It is so easy to get backed up with laundry with waiting for it to dry. My goal is to finally figure out a systems so that I get down to manageable amounts of laundry and not IKEA bags full of loads I need to do. It can get overwhelming at times and makes me want to move back to Thailand, where I can pay to have my laundry done by someone else.


Q: Have you experienced differences in doing laundry in the UK vs USA? What about other countries? I would love to hear your feedback!

x
B. 
*Self portrait belongs to Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk
* For information regarding the use of photography by Bonnie Rose and photographic services contact bonnie[at]bonnie-rose[dot]co[dot]uk

Weekend Edition: 13/14 of April ’13

We started this weekend off with pancakes and our country walk.  There was a little debate about whether or not we would be going outside since the weather clearly was ‘rain’ and an Arsenal game would be on in a few hours.  However my need to be outside in the country won over and we got the boys ready for our walk.  Every week it is pretty much the same.  My sons will complain or find reasons to complain for the first fifteen minutes and then they have an amazing time for the entirety of our journey. Time seems to stand still when we are outside, hours pass, and my boys just enjoy the moment.  I really look forward to my weekends with my family. I had been working in a salon when we first moved to England.  I loved working as a hairstylist but it includes working on the weekends.  I was working Saturdays and my husband was working Sundays. Time off for ‘family time’ was seldom and is why I cherish these walks even more.  There is always something new to see.  Today it was the giant monochromatic cows grazing in the pastures as we walked right past.  It may have rained on us. We may have been drenched by the time we got home. It was still a wonderful walk and we came home with smiles on our faces.  Hope you all had a lovely weekend with the ones who matter most. 
Beautiful sunny day awaited us this morning before we headed out on our walk to church. 
Rain meant mud and puddles. Two things I just love when I am wearing my beloved pink Hunter wellies. 
Raindrops falling from the limbs of a thorn encrusted branch. You really can find beauty if you look for it.
Climbing is always involved on the public footpaths.  This is how you climb from one side of the gate to the other.
Very slippery mud in this area so we kept to the planks like pirates of the English land. 
The cows grazing in their fashionable monochromatic trend.  
We of course had to ‘moo’ and hope the cows would in turn talk  with us.  
The one on the left stopped grazing for a moment so I could partake in a country walk photo op. 
Follow the yellow arrows and look out for the public foot path signs.
Maddox got splattered with mud when I hopped down from the gate.  It looked like he cried mud.
Not sure why I feel I look grumpy, because I was anything but while we are outside. Love being outside.
I had to run to get this photo.  If you have ever walked at Ryan’s normal walking pace, you know why. 😉
If it was not so wet I would have easily sat down and enjoyed the flowers. 
Oh how I love Spring!  April Showers bring May flowers right? 
Trying to keep up with taking more photos of the two of us together this year. Ronan helped out today. 
We stopped by the shop for milk and it was still raining.  However they did not seem phased by the weather. 
Sometimes I wish I could pause moments in time.  This would be one of them. 
This is how my hair looked when we got home. Long curly waves and lots of frizz. Oh and no make up. Enjoy! 😉
After church today we enjoyed homemade parsnip soup and a few pots of tea.  The sun is outside but taking it easy today as we catch up with the laundry from the week.  I should really post about how I do laundry in England, because it quite differs from the US. Till then, let me know how your weekend was and what you got up too!
x
B. 
 *photos belong to Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk
* For information regarding the use of photography by Bonnie Rose and photographic services contact bonnie[at]bonnie-rose[dot]co[dot]uk

Self Portrait: ‘Into the Woods’

My portrait for ‘Self Portrait Saturday’ found its backdrop in my sons’ room 
after I checked on their progress of making their bed.  
The house we rent is filled with unfinished wooden doors and 
came with similar style wooded wardrobes and armoires. 
They do not all necessarily match however. 
Which gives as an eclectic look to work with 
when it comes to instilling our own interior design.  
(side note: Yes, I wear my sunnies in the house sometimes. 
The prescription is better in these than my current frames 
so if its light enough I tend to wear them.  
Besides they are one of my favourite fashion accessories 
as well as being practical.) 

‘Into the Woods’ Self portrait by Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk

Sunglasses: Ray Ban Coat: Lux

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* For information regarding the use of photography by Bonnie Rose and photographic services contact bonnie[at]bonnie-rose[dot]co[dot]uk

TCK: Saying Goodbye to Friends Pt. II

“Letting go of people or traditions is hard because you invest so much in them but to let go can be scary.  But it can also be liberating. Or even essential to your happiness. 
– The Carrie Diaries (Season 1 Episode 13)

Self Portrait taken by Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk


Now a days friendships have a better fighting chance with the current age of social media.  With the accessibility of apps like Skype and Google’s Hangout you can have face time with friends from all over the world.  There are family portraits being taken where family members stand in front of a projection screen showing a live feed of the members who live far away. My iPhone from the states that i cannot use yet in England (would have to be jail broken and unlocked) I can send text messages with it to my mum in Arizona with Whatsapp.  Whether you are on a smart phone, a laptop or at home on a computer you can talk to anyone instantly through Twitter, Facebook, and Google+.  The vast huge world just got immensely smaller with the technology age by which we are surrounded. It is now more common to be close friends with people you interact with online and do not live in close proximity with nor have met in person. It benefits families today just the same.  When I was growing up I might get a card from a grandparent on my birthday, but I only got to see them for a few days every three or four years when we visited the US.  Now that my mum is a ‘Nonna’ she can message me on Whatsapp to ask if I can get her grandsons online  for a Google Hangout.  Within minutes she is visually there in our kitchen asking her grandsons about what they did in school that day. It is a much more connected world than our past. 

It is through that connection that I gather and keep close the friendships I have made through out the past thirty years of my life.  On Facebook I have friends from as early back as primary school.  I was living in England back then during the late 80’s and early 90’s from when my father was stationed at Lakenheath AFB in Norfolk.  I have friends on Facebook from each place I have lived since that time all the way up to my current friendships here in Bath, England. I would say the majority of the friendships are people I have found again through Facebook, whom I may have lost contact with after moving away.  These would be former classmates from the three high schools that I attended, from my University, and from the three technical schools I attended for my vocational license.  What I have found interesting is how I connect closer with some people now as a expat mum with kids to some classmates whom were more of a well known acquaintance than a close friend back then.  Then there are friends that I was really close with back at school and we may now be more distant and message each other once a year.  Life happens and time plays a big factor. It is what plays into the love factor of the ‘love/hate’ relationship of Facebook.  I love being able to reconnect and being able to keep in touch with people from all over the world. Despite how much I loved my camera, relationships are more valuable than any material item I own.  After all it is relationships that give purpose to life. 
On the other side of things, I see often where people will clean out their friends on social networks and try to stick with only people they actually talk to on a regular basis.  I admit I have tried to do that in the past, especially during traumatic times in my life as in the death of my father.  But to be fair I cannot bring myself to get rid of a whole class of ‘friends’ from my social feeds because junior high was so long ago. If I had grown up in one or even just two places as a child than it might be a possiblity. However since a TCK experiences this cycle of loss in regard to friendships and personal identity, I cling to the many places in my life where I grew up.  Where I may not hold German citizenship, I do take possession of my time living in Germany as mine and the memories of that culture that are a part of who I am today.  Classmates who lived in Germany at that same period that I got to know are unique because no one else can say they have shared that experience. That is what makes a TCK so complex and the friendships they make so priceless.  

What has placed this subject so close to my heart recently is looking back at friendships that I am clinging too.  As someone who has moved so much and has had to say goodbye so many times, I have still fought for many friendships to keep going. There is a misconception about TCKs that we do not let ourselves get to close to people, or that we can easily just walk away.  There is a certain way that nomadic people prepare and work through the process of having to say goodbye and having to make a new life in a new place.  That process and going through the continual cycle of it I feel has only made a TCK’s heart bigger and more accepting of people.  I can open myself up to anyone that I have just met, just as someone would to a friend they have known for awhile and have gone through those specific phases of friendship.  I believe that fact tied in with the amazingly large number of people I have met or became friendships with is the root cause of being overwhelmed.  I want to be a great friend to everyone and I want to relive the memories shared.  It can be hard to rebuild friendships with people if you find you are giving a certain higher percentage to the equation that is not being reciprocated.  How much of yourself and your time do you invest in friends and relationships that become more of a one way street?

It boils down to one main realization. By finding friends that I had lost touch with through out the years in this online world of social networking, I find parts of myself and my life I had said goodbye to once already. Why would I want to have to say goodbye again? 

Q: Are you a TCK/ATCK/CCK or a person of a highly nomadic life that has experienced the cycle of saying goodbye and letting go of friends?  How has social networking affected your life?

x
Bonnie Rose


This is Pt. II, to read TCK: Saying Goodbye to Friends Pt. I click here. 
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Photography: Living Dolls

Throwback thursday and I bring you today my Living Dolls concept from a shoot back in 2010 while we were living on Oahu, Hawaii.  This idea came about after I had met worked with model Alysha and had come across another model, Kristen.  Both girls are beautiful but also had a quality that reminded me of dolls.  So with the help of my make up artist, Melissa Hurley, we transformed the models into china dolls.  Alysha’s Outfit I put together from two different dresses I found from vintage shops. Kristen’s blouse came from Target and I sewed her skirt from my own design without a pattern.  I loved that pink skirt because it was my first time to put bustles into a garment   The models were accompanied by china dolls I found from vintage stores and used a bit of trick photography and post processing to put them on bookshelves. Overall it was a fun shoot that we shot with the use of my then new Alien Bees lighting equipment.   

Here are the final edits from the Lolita Living Doll shoot 
and make sure to check out the Behind the Scenes video at the end of the post.  

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Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk
Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk 
Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk
Watch the Behind the Scenes footage from the photo shoot with Bonnie Rose. 
Models: Alysha Busha & Kristen Elizabeth
Make up Artist: Melissa Hurley
Hairstylist/Styling/Photography: Bonnie Rose
 

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Wedding: Destination Vow Renewal

Sixteen weeks, which is essentially four months, to go until 
we renew our vows for our 10th Wedding Anniversary.  
Guess what?  We will not be staying here in Bath, England as planned.  
I had originally envisioned taking photos in the beautiful Sommerset countryside 
and an intimate reception in our back garden with Solsbury hill as our view.  
While that would have been just perfect for us, 
my husband wanted to do something a little bit more.  
It is now a destination vow renewal and we are taking this fete to Wales! 
Self Portrait on timer by Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk 

Snowdonia, Wales.  The name alone sounds like a mystical location in a fairytale story.

It is a region in northern Wales, a national park, and gets its name from Mt. Snowdon.
Not only is the area beautiful beyond words it is also tied into the Arthurian legend.
The area is bustling with outdoor activities like cycling, climbing, 
horse riding, golfing, canyoning, caving, water sports. 
There are the historical sites, railways, food, shopping, and events. 
bridge and river by photoeverywhere.co.uk

I must find out where this bridge is or if there are more like it near where we will be staying.
As a photographer my mind is racing with ideas for wedding and family photos.

I really want to go see Portmeirion, pictured below, during our time in Wales.
It  is a unique coastal resort in Snowdonia that really could be a fairytale. 
The colours of the landscape alone really make the colour buildings come alive.
It is no wonder so many brides choose Portmeirion as their wedding destination.

portmerion by photoeverywhere.co.uk

I have one dream to add to this new location and that is to ride horses there.
Also envisioning being photographed in my gown with a horse.
That would be perfection.

new forest ponies by photoeverywhere.co.uk

As of last week we booked our holiday rental where family and friends will join us for a week.
I now am pouring over images and links of things to see and do in the area.
I know this will be one trip that will have to be followed up with return visits.
There is just so much to see and do and Snowdonia is quite a big area to cover.
My family is very outdoorsy and we do a lot of walking and enjoy outdoor activities.
I am hoping for as much sunshine as Wales will allow this blushing bride 2.0

xx

Q: Have you ever been to Wales? Or do you have any ideas for our Vow Renewal?

* Self portrait by Bonnie Rose Photography © 2012 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk
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*** Snowdonia images by photoeverywhere.co.uk