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Weekend Edition: 27/28 of April ’13

This weekend my husband and I decided to take the family into town where we live in Bath, England.  The weather looked like it might become fowl, but with only a few minutes of rainfall we enjoyed both some sun and some cloudy chill skies. There are stil many shops that we have not been into so we ventured into some new places on Saturday.

For those of you who do not know, my husband loves to shop.  When I met him in University he was happy to buy shirts for a quarter at the local thrift store bin of work shirts. However somewhere between being married to me and then having to wear a uniform with the USAF he found a love for good quality clothes.  When you are married to your best friend AND he loves to shop for himself it is a win-win in my book. Now I just have to get him to start buying me clothes 😉

I also finally got an eye exam this week and new glasses.  My most current frames broke in January and I have been wearing a very old perspiration sine then.  I cannot explain to a person with 20/20 vision how amazing it is to finally be able to see.  I can also now stop wearing my prescription sunglasses inside the house which means I will also have to stop singing ‘I wear my sunglasses at night…’

Today has been relatively chill with us staying at home, planning a birthday party for my youngest, and watching the Arsenal game this afternoon.  We did miss out on our country walk this week, having opted to go into town instead.  This was due to practical matters as well as my eldest is currently without the right shoes for mud.  His boots have a gap in the heel and on our last walk he is foot got covered and soaked in muddy water.  However his replacement wellies are due next week so we can venture out in the countryside on the weekend.

Here is a little overview of what I have shared on Instagram this week and weekend:

Photography by Bonnie Rose via her Instagram. Follow @the_bonnierose

Q: How was your weekend?
xx
Bonnie Rose

*photography belongs to Bonnie Rose of Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk

TCK & Expat: 10 Steps to Keeping in Touch with Friends

This is the third part to a series about Third Culture Kids (TCKs) and friendships. In the first two parts,  TCK: Saying Goodbye to Friends Pt. I and TCK: Saying Goodbye to Friends Pt. II the focus was on the effects a nomadic life has on friendships.  While some friendships can remain intact, many and most slowly slip away with each move to a new location.  When facing the cycle of continual loss, how can you recover and maintain your social circles?

“A Third Culture Kid (TCK) is a person who has spent a significant part of his or her developmental years outside the parents’ culture. The TCK frequently builds relationships to all of the cultures, while not having full ownership in any. Although elements from each culture may be assimilated into the TCK’s life experience, the sense of belonging is in relationship to others of similar background.” – Wikipedia on the Definition of a TCK

Nomadic children and ATCK (Adult Third Culture Kids) are also joined by the Expat adults when it comes to having to say goodbye to friendships and hello to new ones.  Having to constantly make new relationships as an adult has already proven itself as harder than when we were kids.  You are no longer in an education system forced to spend hours every day with your peers.  You are in the work place and in the community where friendships now have had time to really grow for those who do not move away.  It can prove challenging to break into social groups.  However challenging it opens you up to a new world of relationships and experiences.  So what do you do now when you have to say goodbye and move to another city, country, or continent?  What about the friends you leave behind and how do they adjust to your departure? Is there a way to return to old friendships after you get busy with your own separate lives?


My tips for keeping in touch with your friends:

1. Use the Phone.  Whether your friend is in the same or different country you can more than likely keep in contact every month with the phone.  There is nothing like hearing the voice of your friend and even a quick five minute call can do wonders for a long distance friendship. If you are unable to phone your friend, due to long distance charges, there are many smart phone aps that you can use to converse with your friend. Send free messages and calls with Viber, send free messages with Whatsapp, and send free messages and video chat with Skype and Google Hangout.  The point is to keep that open channel of communication.

  1. 2. Write letters. By this I mean get actual paper and write a letter to your friend that you can send through the mail.  Email is great because you can quickly send something off and it will be received instantly. While that is perfect for social networking and business it can really lack the personal touch that can help a friendship flourish.  If you ever had a penpal when you were younger you can remember how great it was to recieve a letter in the mail and find out what your friend has been up too.  Just remember to send the letter after you write it. It can be too easy to put off taking it ot the post office and letting the contents of the letter become old and irrelevent.  Sometimes when you have not written a letter in a while it can be hard to get it started.  Just think about what you would like to know about the friend you are sending it too and share that bit of information from your life.  Let your friend know what you have been up too.  Pretend like you are talking to them when you write your letter and do not worry about being boring.  Just put your personality and how you normally talk in conversation into the letter and talk from the heart. 
3. Send Cards and Care packages. Surprises in the mail are the best, so why not surprise your friend with a nice note card from your local stationary shop? Or better yet put together a care package full of items that remind you of your friend and local delicacies from the place where you are currently living.  It is a great way to show to your friend that you care and are thinking of them.  Plus sending them items from your current home can help connect them to your current life.  If they use to live where you live now, getting a care package with some of their favourite and now hard to get items will certainly brighten their day. Just remember that sometimes it is the littlest things (ie inexpensive gifts and trinkets) that can show how much you care.
4. Use Electronic Mail. Of course  make sure you both have each other’s e-mail addresses so you can keep in contact online.  As great as ‘snail mail’ can be, it can also be great to just quickly check in online with your friends.  Especially during stressful times and during hardships, being able to get a quick message or make sure your frined is okay shows how valuable email can be.   
5. Chat Online. You can also use instant messenger services online.  For example with MSN, AIM, Yahoo, and Google you can talk with your friends and do so all at once in a chat. There is nothing like turning on your computer and checking your inbox for updates from your friends.  
6. Video Chat.  Face time can be some of the best time shared between friends who are separated by distance.  There is nothing like being able to see your friend and watch their reactions as you talk.  Video conferencing now a days is even better than when it was first available to the public.  Using services such as Google Hangout you can talk to more than one friend all at the same time.  Depending on the quality of the connection it can be the next best thing to seeing your friend in person. 
7.  Make Plans.  It is easier to keep in touch with friends when you know you have plans to see each other.  Before it use to be hard to return back home because in the nomadic community that means the home you once knew may not be the same one to where your return.  It becomes not only the question to how you will get there, but where will you stay, where will you go when you get there and what do you do with your things when you do? Using the website Friends of Friends Travel, you can plan your next trip to see each other or even travel together to a new destination. The best part of FOF Travel is that you keep your travel network within your friends and their friends so when you travel you know that you are safe.  Within your travel network you have many different services you offer and take advantage of complimentary. Be it a place stay, a change to meet up with a trustworthy and friendly local, somewhere to leave your stuff, and access to travel advice and tips.  If you become a premium member at FOF Travel you get access to a whole line of travel services that include (and not limited to) flights, travel insurance and tour packages.  No longer do you have to reminisce about the good time and wish you could go back to the places you once lived and where you have traveled.  The world is at your fingertips with your social travel network at FOF Travel.  All you have to do then is make a plan to see each other.  Where you go from there is up to you. 
8. Be Assertive.  Step up and contact your friend.  Do not wait on them to make the first move, for them to check up on you, or to get a letter from them.  Make it your responsibility to keep in touch. Friendship is a two way street, but sometimes all it needs is a jump start from one end to revive itself.
9. Ask questions.  It is so easy to share information about our own lives. Make sure to think about questions a head of time and even write them down if you need too.  Keep your friendship strong by making sure the relationship is not all about you.  Even if you have known someone a long time, by asking questions you are letting them know you care and letting them be open with you about how they feel about a certain subject.  In turn they are letting you into their life, sharing themselves with you and furthering the bond of trust in the relationship.  The important part is to make sure your friend knows that you care about them. 
10. Go with the Flow. Friendships and relationships all have peaks and valleys.  Do not get strung out or dramatic when at times things dont seem to be the same as they used to be.  Just go with the flow and work on the above steps to keep your friendship refreshed.  
*See this Article on Friends of Friends Travel: http://www.foftravel.com/inspirations/tck-expat-10-steps-to-keeping-in-touch
**For more information on Third Culture Kids, TCKs, and ATCKS
***Photographs and wording belong to Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All rights reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk 

Expat to Expat Q&A: Weather

Today I have a bit of a treat for you.  I am linking up with Belinda for a Expat to Expat: Q&A Session.  Today it is mainly focused on the weather. Which for living in England is perfect because we are always talking about the weather here.

My life as an Expat:
Technically I am a dual citizen with England due to being born here to my American parents.  My sons and I both have dual nationality with America.  My husband is the full expat while I am a technically expat as a person who is always caught between worlds.  I am Third Culture Kid (TCK) feel free to read more about my life as a TCK here.  We have been living the expat life in England since the end of May 2011.  We have always wanted to move to Europe since I grew up and lived in Europe until the age of seventeen.  We lived in Brighton, England first and now we are living in Bath in the Somerset area.  We do not ever plan to return ‘home’ to the USA.  We are open to moving to other places in Europe, Asia, and elsewhere but for now are content with our life in the UK.


1. What was your favourite season back home and is it the same now; why or why not?
Technically I have never had a home and there is not one place I can compare to another from everywhere I have lived. I used to live in Hawaii while my husband was stationed on Oahu and it was pretty much Summer year round with a monsoon period.  It was really lovely always being able to be outside due to the climate.  I used to fantasize what it would be like to be able to layer when choosing outfits.  Now that I am living the expat life in England I have many chances to layer.  Leggings are pretty much a staple under anything I wear, including trousers.  I still love Summer, however what I may have taken for granted with island life is now a special treat in England for when the sun breaks through the clouds.

2. Is there a place you would like to move to base solely on the weather?
There are two places that come to my mind. First Hawaii because I remember what it was like to have a free afternoon, drive out to North Shore, and just lie on the beach in the sun.  I do think of the possibility of moving back there if we had to move to the USA. However based on weather I could also move to any place in Austria, Switzerland, and southern Germany.  I have fond memories in all three places from my childhood in both the Summer and Winter months.  Seasonal activities like hiking and camping or skiing and snowboarding in the Alps is a good enough reason for me to move there.

3. What is a piece or an article of clothing that you had to buy for your new home due to the weather? 
As stated above, leggings. Also tights and thick nylons. Basically anything that I can layer with that can help keep my legs from freezing.  It is also the first article of clothing that I picked up on for fashion in the UK during our first week as expats in England.  Girls wear leggings with everything. Under dresses, under skirts, under high waisted and really short denim shorts (that show you bum cheeks), and under trousers.  Especially in the cold months you can look around and 85% of the female population will be wearing black on their legs since most leggings come in that colour.  Wellies (rainboots) are also a staple item for our expat life in England.  I just had to purchase new pairs for my sons.  Not just for the rainy season but for our weekly country walks.  You do not wear trainers (sneakers, tennis shoes) to go roaming the countryside. Thats a sure fire way to stand out as an outsider.  Of course coats and scarves in multiple varieties or staples of the UK wardrobe.

4. Have you found the weather stereotypes of your home to be true? 
I have lived here as a younger girl, but yes the stereotypes of weather are true.  Its cold a lot due to the usual white cloud cover across the sky and definitely if the wind is blowing.  It does rain frequently.  If it s not raining its cold enough to be snowing.  Sometimes it rains but its not enough to even open up your brolly (umbrella). We went through quite a number of umbrellas during our first year in England due their short life expectancy and over use. When the clouds do disappear, the sun comes out, and the temperature rises you can bet that every able person will be outside enjoying every moment of the good weather.

5. Is there somewhere you would never live based solely on weather? 
I do love the snow especially if I am on a vacation to make the most enjoyment out of the winter weather.  However I do not think I would really want to live say in Alaska maybe or somewhere where the sun might disappear for quite a long time because I already deal with vitamin D deficiency with living in England compared to living in Hawaii.  However I realize that would include say Sweden and I really want to live there sometime after traveling there. So who knows, I probably could be open to anything. Every pro has a con anyways including weather. 

6. What are you looking forward to most this Spring? 
I am most looking forward to wearing my shorter and sleeveless dresses. Even if that means I am also pairing them with leggings, leg warmers  cardigans, and jumpers (sweaters).  Just being able to wear more seasonal outfits for Spring and Summer can trick the mind into thinking it is warmer than it is, even under a coat. 



7. Where you live what is your go to outfit for Spring?  
I really try to not wear denim in England if I can help it. To me denmin screams ‘America’ and I already have my accent as a fashion accesorsy. No need to overkill it.  I really like the feminity of wearing dresses and skirts. So my go to outfit for spring is usually a dress or skirt, leggings if the weather permits it, a cardigan or jumper (sweater) and a scarf.  It really depends on the weather because if we get our rare warm days than I could easily ditch the leggings and the cardigan. I pretty much wear my sunnies (sunglasses) year round.

8. What is one event or thing that happens at this time back home that you miss at this time of the year? 
Again I do not have a home to compare this too.  However when it is a colder or rainy spring day I will envision wearing less clothing and being on the beach in Hawaii.  I try not to do that as it is easy to always see the grass as greener.  I was missing Europe while living in Hawaii. I would rather just be content because I am happy where we are living in Bath, England. If I do have my down moment I can always head into Hollister, look at the summery beach clothing and pretend in the darkness of the store that I am somewhere sunny. 😉

9. What type of flower bouquet would you love to have as a surprise?  
I do love roses especially since rose is my middle name.  However I have always wanted to be surprised with a beautiful pink bouquet of peonies because they are another of my favourite flower.  However I also love red poppies because they remind me of my dad who passed away.  He served 30 plus years in the USAF as an officer and is a veteren and I cannot help but pass a field of poppies and have him on the forefront of my mind.

10. What does your perfect Saturday look like?  
Our perfect Saturday is blue skies with our without clouds and little to no rain.  My family usually is outside on a country walk in the beautiful English countryside every weekend.  We really love being outside in our wellies and being outside for hours.  It is something I used to do with my dad when we were living in England back in the 80s and 90s. There is nothing like being in the middle of the country surrounded by nature’s beauty to let the stress of the week just melt off.  It helps us remember how much we love and feel blessed to be living as expats in England.  I honestly get a high off of it. 

11. Are there any special holidays in the month of May in your new country?
Yes there is a bank holiday in May. British bank holidays are public holidays, recognized since 1871.  It comes form the time when banks were shut so no trading could take place.  There are eight of them through out the year and two of them are in May.  May Day or Early May bank holiday is the first monday in May and Spring Bank Holiday is the last Monday in May. 




I am linking up with Belinda for the Expat to Expat Q&A Session.  

Found Love.  Now What?

Want to play along? Here are the questions for April, feel free to answer them and link up below! {The link will be open until Sunday April 28th} Once you submit your post, feel free to share it on Twitter (#ExpatQandA) or Facebook. If you are not an expat, hop around the links below to view the other submissions!

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Doing Laundry and Helping the Environment

Last week I talked about Doing the Laundry – UK vs USA and the pros and cons that come with it in each country.  I got a lot of great response and feedback from the post, thank you readers!  Make sure to take a read if you have not had a chance yet.

As an update, this weekend I was able to catch up on quite a bit of laundry that had been piling up.  Saturday we had a very warm cloudless day of sunshine. In England that means you forget your previous plans and react like it is summer by donning shorts and sunnies to head outside in the sun. I remember last year when we had our fluke day of summer in the early Spring.  My family had headed into Brighton on the train and I had never seen it packed with so many bodies headed to the shore.  Girls are wearing short dresses and shorts and you would think we were all at club med. We take our sunshine days seriously in the UK.

Back to the laundry situation. I made sure to move all the wet laundry outside and run another load to put out before we left on our country walk.  When we came back hours later our laundry was practically dry. This never happens if there is cloud cover, despite the sun being out. It was really great. I could get used to this but I checked the weather report for the week and looking a bit gloomy on that end.

However there is always a reason to find the positive. Today I am bringing to you the upside to doing laundry.  As a working mother I live to multitask and what better to do that with then to combine your passions with the things that must get done.  If you are a regular reader you know that my family is really big into buying locally, conservation, being ecofriendly.  A few months ago I was trying to find a UK version of the US’s borax. Basically because I am an avid user of Pinterest and wanted to make our own laundry detergent at home to be more economical.  However I realized upon asking all my friends in the UK that Borax is not easily obtained here.  More so it is apparently ‘too toxic for normal people to use’.

A friend in Oxford referred me to try Ecover laundry detergent. What I found out is that Ecover uses only plant-based and mineral ingredients. This means it is not only gentle on your clothes but your skin as well.  It has complete biodegradability and minimum impact on aquatic life.  Their packing is made from sugarcane to be renewable, reusable, and recyclable. Those are three ‘r’s I can stand behind.

Check out this information graphic for more details on  how doing laundry and helping the environment  can be done at the same time.

Cleaning the seas, one bottle at a time
Cleaning the seas, one bottle at a time. Visit The-Splash for more information and to read our pledge.

Q: Have you tried or do you use Ecover products?  Have you found ways to be Eco-friendly in the household?

x
Bonnie Rose

*These statements and words are my own as I am passionate about being eco-friendly for our health and our environment.   

TCK: 10 Things Expats Raising Children Should Know

This is an article I wrote for an Expat Writing Competition at ExpatsBlog.com.  While it does focus on specifics for living in England the majority of it does and can be applied to Expats from all nationalities living anywhere in the world. This is the issue about raising nomadic children outside your home country and culture in a nice Top Ten fashion.

10 Things Expats Raising Children (in England and elsewhere) Should Know

1.  Depending on the age of your children and how long you will be living in the country, you may be raising Third Culture Kids, or TCK for short. Find out as much information on the subject as you can. American sociologist David C. Pollock coined TCKs as “a person who has spent a significant part of his or her developmental years outside the parents’ culture. The TCK frequently builds relationships to all of the cultures, while not having full ownership in any. Although elements from each culture may be assimilated into the TCK’s life experience, the sense of belonging is in relationship to others of similar background.”

2.  Expect that your children will face some sort of culture shock in England, even if you are moving from another english speaking country like the United States. Culture shock does not necessary happen immediately and can differ between individuals. Prepare your children for the tough times so that when a situation arises you can meet the challenge with comfort and flexibility.

3. Realize that your kids may transition faster in a country as a child than you will as an adult. I had lived in England as a young girl, but with raising two boys in school over here found them to adjust quicker to life in England. My boys would correct my word choice or even my pronunciation of words from the ‘American’ to the ‘English’. Kids are quite resilient and impressionable when taking in a new culture and learning the laws of the land.

4.  With raising TCKs your children may find they have more in common with other nomadic children, especially as they become adults, than they do with non-TCKs from the country of which you originate.

5.  While living in England give your kids the best experience of the culture by immersing them in the local customs and way of life. From holidays to sporting events, there are many facets of England that you can use to create lasting memories of a childhood abroad. Especially if you are around other expats, make sure your kids have local friends as well. As a military brat, I have known many families who never left ‘little america’ on the military compounds while living in Europe. It is one thing to visit another country as a tourist, and quite another to immerse yourself in a culture as an expat.
Bonnie Rose’s personal view as a TCK

6.  Document your experiences with your children so that if you leave the country later, you will have memories for them to keep with them. Especially remember to take notice of the little ‘day to day’ things we often take for granted after living in one place for a while. These will be the things you will miss most after you move on. It will become more memories of travel for your children. Especially if you continue a nomadic life. As TCKs when you do not necessarily have a ‘home’ you connect with all the countries and cultures in which you lived. The little things like country walks on the weekend with your parents and going to the Pantos at Christmas will become important parts of their identity later on.

7.Prepare your children in England before you move back home if you plan on repatriation. Even if you moved your children around frequently with easy enough adjustments it will may not compare to the move back to your home culture. Since birth I moved around constantly growing up mainly in Europe and moved to the United States at seventeen years old. It was that move back ‘home’ with my parents that became the hardest move to date. It may not be for every one and can be harder on some than others. Knowing before hand the challenges can help the family as a whole as you embark on the next path of your life.

8.  The Hidden Immigrant may be something your children will face if you are an American expat returning home from England. They will appear to look, sound, and fit right back into American life. However little things like personal interests, foods, world views may differ from their peers. Being teased for something seemingly small can trigger a form of culture shock or a feeling of being lost and alone. Recognizing these triggers and embracing that being different is okay can help transition your children into life in your home culture. Coming home may be harder because while they may not have fit in 100% as a English kid in England they may now feel they also do not fit in 100% in America. Nurture the ‘Neither/Nor’ feeling while helping them embrace the positive sides of being a nomadic child with a broaden experience and world view.

9.  Help your children keep a positive view of being a nomad by keeping in contact with friends that you make abroad and with returning back if at all possible. Keeping a connection with the time period in their life where they were defining themselves as individuals will be a key part to helping them answer the question ‘Where are you from’ later in life.

10.  As with anyone and anything in life there will be pros and cons. With raising third culture kids in England and else where you will find that to be the same. While there can be a continual sense of loss or not knowing where you belong, there are a long list of pros to accompany the nomadic upbringing as well. TCKs tend to get along with more people of any background, are more linguistically adept, and can adapt better than the norm. The more you know about TCKs and the more you know about how your children are feeling will make you that more experienced as a parent raising nomadic children.

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Doing the Laundry – UK vs. USA

Self Portrait by Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnieroseblog.co.uk
One day I got dressed up, did my hair, put on my make up, and got in the tub. Only to turn the shower on to capture my weekly self portrait.  To wear wet clothes in the shower is an odd experience to say the least.  While this was a fun artistic endeavor, my experience with dealing with wet clothes is a weekly occurrence.  
Let me introduce you to this Expat’s guide to Doing the Laundry in the UK vs the USA.  
VOCABULARY LESSON:
UK vs. USA
  • Washing powder = Detergent 
  • Clothes peg = Clothes pin
  • Linen basket = Hamper

I came to the realisation in writing this post that there are pros and cons to how you do laundry in both countries.  I have heard the complaints of US expats in England and UK expats in America.  I have also done my own laundry in both countries.  Here is my personal experience and take on the laundry situation and differences.
1. Size & Location. Just as America has oversized cars and food portions they also have the largest washing and drying machines.  Though today they have some more streamlined versions (or ones that stack nicely on top of each other) they are still very large.  If we are talking about a standard american sized home there is usually a designated space for these monstrous large laundry machines.  That could mean the basement or in its own designated room.  I have experienced having mine also in the kitchen, but tucked away in its own closet behind doors. In England I have most often found them only in the kitchen.  However in our current home our machine (Singular. More on that soon) is on the opposite wall of our stove, in the back hallway next to our refrigerator.  In our last flat our machine was in the kitchen, tucked away under the counter top, and very small.  Though we have never had the luxury of a dishwasher in England they are quite small too. My expat friend has one in her kitchen and the size lends itself to look like a child’s kitchen toy. 
This is our tiny  2-1washing machine from our flat.  The size of the door is about the size of the capacity inside.
Do not be fooled by the large rectangular shape, because it is not the Tardis. It is much smaller on the inside. 
2. Load Sizes. Since the machines are more compact in England then it is only simple math that the loads will be smaller too.  For a girl who used to stuff her american washing machine with a very full load that is a huge size difference compared to what I can do in England.  I also learned the hard way that you cannot ‘stuff’ the machine.  Clothes will not get washed properly and cleaned unevenly. Not all washing machines are the same size here.  In fact our machine in our last flat was the smallest I have ever used.  Which takes us to the next point.
3. The ‘2 in 1′ Machine.  I mentioned the very small washing machine in my last flat.  It was confusing and no manuals or google searches were making it any easier.  I would choose a setting for the specific load like I would in the US.  The door locked, it washes, it dries and it takes hours.  We could only put one towel in the machine if we wanted to not ‘waste’ the drying process.  To wait so many hours just for two outfits, compared to one load was not making me very happy.  Luckily we eventually figured out a trick.  We would put the clothes on the ‘quick wash & dry’ which would wash the clothes and dry them.  They would not be dry. So then choose a drying setting to finish up the job. However it still took much longer to dry for such a small load. When I took the clothes out they still felt damp and very, very hot.  I have burned myself on metal clasps on the garments taking them out.  I then put the clothes out to dry on a drying rack and in an hour or so the small load should be dry. Unless there were too many clothes or I chose not to use the drying setting. Then it could take days. 
4. Hot & Cold Water Hookups. From what I can tell in America you have both hot and cold water hookups to the washing machine and in England that is not necessarily the case.  More often you will only have cold water hookup, with the unused hot water valve caped off.  If that is the case the the washing machine warms up the water to the desired temperature selected.  In America the water is not heated by the machine but by the water supply in the building.  I also wanted to add that my current washing machine actually drains the used water into the utility sink that is next to it. 
This is our slightly bigger washing machine, does not dry, which drains into the utility sink.
It shares a wall with our stove. 
5. Top and Front Loading Machines.  While there are definitely exclusions to this rule in America, most machines are top loading.  Which means you put in the laundry from the top of the machine while in England the machines are front loading.  Though it can be easier for clothes to spill out on the floor when you take clothes out of a front loading machine, I favour it over top loading.  Mainly because in the top loading machines in America you have what is called an agitator.  It is the piece in the middle of the machine that looks like a pole.  I cannot tell you how many spaghetti strap shirts and other garments I have had ruined or tanged on the agitator while living in Hawaii.  To me it seems like a design flaw. 
6. Wet vs. Really Wet.  The clothes I would take out of my washing machine in America, to put into the dryer, were always quite wet.  The clothes out of washing machines in England come out less wet and so then dry faster on the line in comparison.  From research I have found it boils down to the voltage.  America runs off of 110 volts and the UK runs off of 220 volts which makes the spin function better or worse depending on which you use.  This is definitely one issue that unless you have used both machines in both countries, you may not fully understand the difference. 
7.  Dryers are a Luxury.  In America I have had the luxury of having a dryer next to my washing machine.  Always. Heaven forbid the dryer breaks on someone because in America it is only the ‘hippies’ who put their clothes outside to dry.  While this is just a mentality believed by some in the USA, it is not a view shared by those in the UK.  More often than not people will think less of you for having a tumble dryer because they really spike the utility costs in the UK.  Our current home does not have a dryer so we seek other options for our clothes when they come out of the washing machine.
This is one of two drying racks that we use inside and outside to dry our clothes.  It compacts when not in use.
When in use it takes up a lot of space. However this one takes up less pace than are more horizontal version. 
8. Energy Efficient.  It is normal for someone in America to do laundry at any hour of the day. In the UK it is more efficient and saves money to do it during a certain time of day. Electricity is cheaper from 11pm to 6am and is when most people will set their machine to work.  Also in Europe washing machines display an EU Energy Label with grades for efficiency.  This helps consumers in the UK to buy more efficient washing machines. Now in America they say ‘Time is money’ and it does seem to take most of my time to do any of our washing and drying.  I honestly feel that people are more environmentally conscious in Europe than back in America where things like electricity can be taken for granted. 

9. Drying Clothes Outside. As I said more often than not people dry their clothes in a dryer in America.  For those that do like line dry outside, may still use a dryer for items like bedding, towels, and undergarments.  If you had to choose between a soft towel and a crunchy towel, which would you prefer?  However in England line drying is a common practice.  It is a luxury in its own for those who have a garden (‘yard’ for my American readers).  In our last flat with the small washing machine we did not have a garden.  We also were not allowed to hang any clothes from the windows or have our laundry visible clearly from the windows because it is unsightly. Now that we we have a garden I can hang my clothes outside.  But lets be practical and remember that I do live in England.  Where the temperature is usually cold and it rains a lot. I tried just moving my drying rack outside so the clothes could get fresh air back in January.  Did not matter that there was no rain in sight, the cold air would not aid in the drying process.  So after hours I brought my clothes back inside just as wet as they were before. 

Wrinkled from the small washing machine I put the clothes out to dry on racks on the radiator.
Those trousers will have to be ironed later. 
10. Drying Clothes Inside. In America this would imply that you use an electric dryer.  Or for clothes that are more delicate or prone to wrinkling you may hang it up and let it air dry. There may be some clothes drying adapted radiators available, but usually central heating is involved in American homes.  In England we have varying size radiators in every room except our kitchen and one in the hallway.  We are two short since those ones do not seem to be working.  However the others do a fantastic job and helping to dry our clothes.  If I do my kids uniforms at night before bed I can draper them over the radiators and go to bed. In the morning their outfits are dry, usually warm and ready to wear.  We have our radiators set on a timer and they go off at certain times in the 24 hour period.  I know when they go on and so plan my washing accordingly.  We also have these neat racks I can place on the radiator so that I dry a few more garments than I could without them. If I am trying to get a lot of clothes dry or drying bigger items like bedding and towels I have to use drying racks.  It can literally take up to three days to dry these items especially if the weather is cold.  Plus they take up a lot of room and you are constantly side stepping around them and hoping not to knock of laundry on the floor. 
Extra tidbit from an Expat in the UK:  I do spend a lot of time multi tasking and trying to remember to go back to other tasks. This includes always checking the weather in case I need to put clothes outside or take them back inside.  I am constantly having to open windows, to prevent mold, and remembering to go back later to close them again. Especially if it starts raining. For my clothes on the dryer I periodically go around and flip them over like pancakes so they get dry evenly on both sides. 

In Summary there are differences between doing the laundry in the UK vs in the USA. I do miss my american sized dryer so much. However I do not think I could ever have one here because I know how expensive it would be to use it and then it would just be taking up so much space with its large size. In the UK I do love being eco friendly compared to wasting resources, money, energy, etc. However I would like to figure out a better system of having all my laundry done at once. It is so easy to get backed up with laundry with waiting for it to dry. My goal is to finally figure out a systems so that I get down to manageable amounts of laundry and not IKEA bags full of loads I need to do. It can get overwhelming at times and makes me want to move back to Thailand, where I can pay to have my laundry done by someone else.


Q: Have you experienced differences in doing laundry in the UK vs USA? What about other countries? I would love to hear your feedback!

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B. 
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Weekend Edition: 13/14 of April ’13

We started this weekend off with pancakes and our country walk.  There was a little debate about whether or not we would be going outside since the weather clearly was ‘rain’ and an Arsenal game would be on in a few hours.  However my need to be outside in the country won over and we got the boys ready for our walk.  Every week it is pretty much the same.  My sons will complain or find reasons to complain for the first fifteen minutes and then they have an amazing time for the entirety of our journey. Time seems to stand still when we are outside, hours pass, and my boys just enjoy the moment.  I really look forward to my weekends with my family. I had been working in a salon when we first moved to England.  I loved working as a hairstylist but it includes working on the weekends.  I was working Saturdays and my husband was working Sundays. Time off for ‘family time’ was seldom and is why I cherish these walks even more.  There is always something new to see.  Today it was the giant monochromatic cows grazing in the pastures as we walked right past.  It may have rained on us. We may have been drenched by the time we got home. It was still a wonderful walk and we came home with smiles on our faces.  Hope you all had a lovely weekend with the ones who matter most. 
Beautiful sunny day awaited us this morning before we headed out on our walk to church. 
Rain meant mud and puddles. Two things I just love when I am wearing my beloved pink Hunter wellies. 
Raindrops falling from the limbs of a thorn encrusted branch. You really can find beauty if you look for it.
Climbing is always involved on the public footpaths.  This is how you climb from one side of the gate to the other.
Very slippery mud in this area so we kept to the planks like pirates of the English land. 
The cows grazing in their fashionable monochromatic trend.  
We of course had to ‘moo’ and hope the cows would in turn talk  with us.  
The one on the left stopped grazing for a moment so I could partake in a country walk photo op. 
Follow the yellow arrows and look out for the public foot path signs.
Maddox got splattered with mud when I hopped down from the gate.  It looked like he cried mud.
Not sure why I feel I look grumpy, because I was anything but while we are outside. Love being outside.
I had to run to get this photo.  If you have ever walked at Ryan’s normal walking pace, you know why. 😉
If it was not so wet I would have easily sat down and enjoyed the flowers. 
Oh how I love Spring!  April Showers bring May flowers right? 
Trying to keep up with taking more photos of the two of us together this year. Ronan helped out today. 
We stopped by the shop for milk and it was still raining.  However they did not seem phased by the weather. 
Sometimes I wish I could pause moments in time.  This would be one of them. 
This is how my hair looked when we got home. Long curly waves and lots of frizz. Oh and no make up. Enjoy! 😉
After church today we enjoyed homemade parsnip soup and a few pots of tea.  The sun is outside but taking it easy today as we catch up with the laundry from the week.  I should really post about how I do laundry in England, because it quite differs from the US. Till then, let me know how your weekend was and what you got up too!
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B. 
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