Homemade Banana Coffee cake for tea with my friend today. |
Getting ready to sit down for a cuppa and some treats as I catch up with my friend this afternoon. |
Homemade Banana Coffee cake for tea with my friend today. |
Getting ready to sit down for a cuppa and some treats as I catch up with my friend this afternoon. |
Today is the eight day of May with the Blog Every Day in May challenge. Feel free to join in and if you catch this anytime through out the month feel free to just jump right in. Day 8, Wednesday: A piece of advice you have for others. Anything at all.
Cheers! If you have came here today from Casey’s blog, We Took the Road Less Traveled I would like to say ‘Welcome’ and thank you for visiting! If you have not read my guest post today you can read it here at: ‘Finding Happiness when Restlessness Strikes’, a look at how to find contentment when the need to travel or move arises.
Whether you have been following along for the last few months or just here today, I would like to give you a glimpse of what it has been like to live an ex-pat life in England. We have been living here since 2011 with no intention to leave.
We are both so content here in England and could not imagine not living the Expat life. Has it been difficult? Sure. Have we made mistakes along the way with not knowing the correct information. You betcha. But would we trade our lives for something else? I do not believe so. Not unless it meant to live the expat life elsewhere. However we are very happy here and look forward to more travels through out Europe during our time here. Whether you are planning to relocate to England, are living here currently as expats, or want to come visit I recommend coming to the UK. Feel free to ask me any questions and I hope to be able to answer you as best as I can.
Today is the seventh day of May with the Blog Every Day in May challenge. Feel free to join in and if you catch this anytime through out the month feel free to just jump right in. Day 7, Tuesday: The thing(s) you’re most afraid of.
Self portrait in an ambulance by Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved |
I have always answered the question ‘What makes you most afraid?’ with a more serious answer than just spiders or the dark. I really do dislike spiders and find the unknown in the darkness to be quite terrifying. However, my deepest feeling of being afraid comes from the fear of being alone. Perhaps this is a common fear among the population with a need to be connected and to be heard. On a more personal level I see this fear of being alone coming from many years of having to say ‘goodbye’ and being in a new place again and again. While I would never want to have my childhood any less nomadic the price comes with times of solitude.
In my life, people do not tend to stay very long. They come and go easily, just as I move in and out easily. I have constantly and always moved every 2-3 years (if not more frequently) since I was born. My father, an officer in the USAF, was always coming and going with his job. There would be some times where he would be gone more frequently or for longer stretches of time due to war. While my self conscious has blocked out the multitude of his absence, I really only remember the good times when he was around. As a young married adult with kids of my own I really wanted to work on our relationship despite the long distance between us. At times it felt like my husband (who was then also in the military) could connect and talk with him much easier. Despite his long military career he was a very happy man full of life and love for others. I was just looking forward to being able to bond with him in my adult years. I was twenty five when was killed and ending any further connection between a daughter and her father.
I have had to deal with periods of being alone since then and have realized I pretty much fall short. It is not that I am so scared of being alone that it thwarts my life. It is that I view the purpose of living to be centered around the love and experience with those in our life. I do not believe we were made to be alone. It is in the hardest of times and the darkest of times that we need others more than ever. Having been alone and going through the loss of my dad, to be followed with the almost dissolution of my marriage within the same year is something I would not wish on another human being. I look back on those years and see how it has made me stronger. It has made some relationships in my life, like with my husband, better than before. However that fear is not gone.
I’m still terrified of losing someone.
My dad was killed on his bicycle by a person in a car under the influence of drugs.
My mother’s brother, who was mentally challenged, had been killed on a bicycle.
During my freshman year of Uni I was hit by a car on a bicycle and luckily walked away with just scrapes and bruises.
Source: Remember Charles |
I have not yet let my boys ride bicycles since my dad’s passing. They have gotten to play on similar items in the safety of a yard and under my watchful eye. It is not the bicycles, but the fear of others hurting my loved ones that scares me. Mountain biking in the countryside would be fine.
In the last week my husband has gotten a bike helmet and bright orange safety backpack. His bicycle to ride to work is on its way. I would be lying if I said I was not scared. As we do not have a car he walks to and from work every day and a bicycle would cut down on the time. Having ‘gasped’ at a few drivers here in England already who are going too fast on the road I walk on with the kids it scares me that something might happen to him.
I am scared that something might happen to my family, especially now when everything is so much better. When this is the happiest and most content my family has ever been and I’m scared of what might happen.
Source: Remember Charles |
Today is the sixth day of May with the Blog Every Day in May challenge. Feel free to join in and if you catch this anytime through out the month feel free to just jump right in.
Day 6, Monday: If you couldn’t answer with your job, how would you answer the question, ‘what do you do’?
I currently work from home. I blog and will be starting as an editor at GirlGoneInternational.com |
I am a travel photographer and really enjoy writing about being a TCK, an Expat, and Travel. |
I really enjoy being a portrait photographer for children and families. |
I go on long walks on the weekend in the country side with my family. We are kinda obsessed with country walks. |
I am enthusiast of natural alternatives when it comes to what we eat and beauty regimens. I love Coconut oil. |
I am a traveler and a global nomad. I feel most at home on an airplane or in an airport headed to a new destination. |
I take creative conceptual self portraits. Which means I look really crazy to people passing by but all for the sake of art. |
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I read and promote the love of books in my sons. We read together and they read ‘chapter books’ on their own. |
Behind the Scenes in front of Diamond Head on a photo shoot. She was modeling and I was the hair & make up artist. |
This is my list of why I think you will love reading her blog. Especially if you want to escape to the life of living on an island or being by the beach you will love her.
Hi-Life&Love is a Hawaiian Lifestyle Blog.
She is love and is not afraid to proclaim it. Life is empty without love and withit the world is beautiful.
She is loving mom of two, who also shares the joys of raising a son with Aspergers. (side note: her son created this piece of artwork and I love it. Its really beautiful to see how he sees the world) |
She posts about her wardrobe and how she keeps her hair so healthy, shiny, and long.
I always remember her having such beautiful nails. As someone whose nails always chip after a day, I enjoy her posts to see what creative colours and designs she chooses.
She is motivated to fitness and shares how she has gotten her rock hard abs over and over again.
Her heart is also in the kitchen and she posts about the yummy creations that she makes in there. I made a pie last year from her crust recipe and it was the best tasting pie I ever made. (thank you Tammy!)
She is also an amazing friend. Here with my Island Ohana.
http://hi-life-love.blogspot.co.uk/
Photography by Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk |
The reason I love this quote so much is because it really speaks to me as a Third Culture Kid (TCK) and now as an ATCK. I have people constantly coming in and out of my life with moving so frequently. It has made me feel like I have lived a ‘normal’ person’s lifetime in my mere thirty years. I am always being called to some place new and get itchy feet when I have not traveled to somewhere recently. To me the purpose of life is the experiences and I want to experience all the world has to offer. Those lines spoken by the narrator really tap into that nomadic existence and has been a favourite amongst my other TCK friends.
The second quote is from one of my favourite authors, Tolkien. I have been a huge fan of The Hobbit and The Lord of the Rings series from a young age. I read from the same books to my kids that my dad used to read from to me. If I ever wanted to get a quote tattooed on my body it would probably be the following.