Weekend Walks: Solsbury Hill

If you follow my blog you know that my husband and I love living in England.
One of our favourite things to do is go on walks on the weekend.
When the weather is really wet sometimes we hide inside.
But today it was not only warm, but the sun was out along with the blue skies.
You know the amazing view I talk about seeing from our living room window?
The beautiful hills dotted with cute white sheep?
Well we finally went to the very top of it today.
We started at our church and walked up to find it is indeed Solsbury Hill.
Just like the song. 
It is beautiful and I will be sharing photos of more Batheaston landscape
and of course more sheep.  There were even more lamb out today.
We had a wonderful time and made it back just in time for the 
Arsenal game.  Ryan made homemade chips to accompany our Carlsberg.
It has been a great day with the familia. 
Hope you are enjoying your weekend!
With my boys, Ronan and Maddox, on top of Solsbury Hill in Batheaston. 
My  husband and his wellies, a must have for our country walks.
Ryan made homemade chips to eat while we watched some Football. Go Gunners! 

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Are you a ‘No Reply Blogger’?

Self Portrait on timer by Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk


When I first started blogging in 2005 this was not an issue. The only people who commented on my blog anyways were family members.  However at the start of this year when I became involved in the blogging universe I was told by another blogger that I was a “no-reply blogger”.  To which I responded in my head, ‘–a what? What is that? How do I fix it?’ After a quick search on google I realized that even though I would comment a ton on all my favourite blogs, my account was not connected to my email address.  What that meant was the owner of the blog could not reply to my comment.  I was glad to know that my comments were not being ignored.  But that sort of defeated the purpose of building a conversation and starting a relationship with another blogger.  

Are you a a no-reply blogger?
I honestly had no idea I was one and I have already helped others in my same situation.  But tracking down every single ‘no reply blogger’ can be time consuming.  I love getting comments because I love getting to know other people. Some readers will leave the sweetest comments on my posts. I get excited and look forward to replying to their comment…only to have my heart sink.  

How do you know if you are a no-reply blogger?
It is really easy. Go comment on your own blog. The email you get will either have your e-mail address or this: noreply-comment@blogger.com. Obviously if it has the later you are a ‘No-reply Blogger’. This is what I look for now before I write back nice thoughtful replies to comments, before they get lost in the blogger abyss

What if you do not change your settings?
Its fine really and as you read further along  you will see that this is more pointed towards bloggers who use blogger and not another blogger platform.  However I try my best to respond back to comments on the blog where it is a ‘no-reply blogger’.  I just dont know what the actuality is that the blogger will return back to that post to see if I replied, since there are no options for notifications to blog comments. I spent a lot of time reading and commenting on blogs never to hear back from the bloggers before I found out about this issue.  Which is disheartening because the blogging community should be a two way street of sharing, reading, commenting, and creating dialog and friendships between people. It is why I blog. 

How do you connect with your readers? 
Change your email settings.  It seems easy enough, however when I was trying to do this myself with having Google+, I realized you kinda have to work around the system by deactivating Google+ first.  You can find all the steps below:

For Google + profiles, visit Rachel’s post and for regular blogger profiles, visit Emily’s post.

Okay but what if I use WordPress, Typepad, Tumblr, etc and not on Blogger?
If you do not blog with Blogger than there are two things you can do.  One is you can make sure you have a Google+ account if only for connecting with the bloggers who do use Google+.  Its security settings seem much easier for me to than the ever changing ones on Facebook.  Set it up and then just have it so that other bloggers can respond back. Or actively use it. The choice is there. 

Otherwise make sure to leave in your comment your email address or a link to your blog (where your email address is easy to find) so that if you comment on a blog, the blog reader can reply back easily. You can read Sandi’s experience with being a ‘no-reply blogger’ and the problem being the Blogger platform. 

I hope this helps clear things up.  I try to respond by email to all my comments and then go back on the blog and reply to those who are ‘no-reply bloggers’. 

Cheers,
xx
Bonnie Rose

TCK: Saying Goodbye to Friends Pt. I

“The issue is that transition always involves loss, no matter how good the next phase will be.  
Loss always engenders grief and the greater you have loved a situation or place or people,  
the greater the grief.” – Ruth Van Reken 


Waiting’ Self Portrait | Bonnie Rose Photography © 2012 All Rights Reserved

The subject of being a TCK and the loss of friendships has been a subject heavy on my heart these last few weeks.  Understanding the loss a Third Culture Kid experiences is to know that the layers of loss run deep.  It is not a superficial issue of just saying ‘goodbye’ but becomes a loss of identity.  There is the loss of home, community, friendships, family, pets, culture, worldview, language, food, weather, expectations, etc. When you have a highly nomadic life as a TCK you lose your world over and over again every time you move.  In turn with each move and each series of losses you equally cycle through stages of grief, just as you would with loss of a loved one.  

It is that loss that I experienced when my parents repatriated back home to the US after serving six overseas tours with the military in Europe.  It took my final year of high school in the US, followed by two and a half years at University of not understanding the full scale of the loss and grief.  Then at a world missions conference I found out about TCKs, that I was one, and everything started to finally make sense. It is my experience that has fueled my need to speak out for the future generations of TCKs. There are some experiences I have now as an ATCK (Adult Third Culture Kid) that prompt my need to write and to share. 
I am thirty years old and I have yet to live in one place for longer than three years at a time since birth.  For the most part I have been around people who have led similar nomadic lifestyles with being a military child and later a military wife.  People were constantly coming and going in and out of my life. Keeping in touch with friends when you moved twenty years ago (and back further) is quite different from today.  You swapped mailing addresses and not emails.  I believe I had my first email account in 1995 as junior high student while living in Germany. Ten years later in 2005 I started a myspace account and a year later in 2006 became active on Facebook. By this time I was living in the US, married with one child and one more on the way. 

When I think about how social networking has impacted our lives today, it truly is remarkable how much different it used to be.  I would keep mailing addresses of friends in an ‘old school’ address book.  It was not strange to mail something to a friend and have the letter later returned because they had since moved on to another location. When email started becoming popular it was normal for us in the younger genrations to change our email address. Email accounts only held so much space and there were always trendy new email servers popping up.  In the end remaining friends with someone from previous moves proved very challenging as a TCK.  Despite sharing a completely unique experience as a TCK, once you have moved twice that friend has now shared other life experiences and has made new friends too. I came up with a colour diagram as a way to explain how moving frequently affects friendships.  


Red is the current place you live in and so your friendships there are current and active.  When you move from your current location on to the next location those friends move into the yellow. The new place becomes your red hot spot.  You make new friendships, you see each other frequently and you know what is going on in your day to day life with those people.  The friendships you made that are now in the yellow zone have some what changed intensity.  While you may still keep in close contact with the selected view, many of those you will slowly over time lose contact.  Since you no longer live in the same city/country/continent the likely hood of running into each other to jump start a stale friendship is slim to none. When move again the friends from the red zone now move to the yellow, those in yellow to the blue, and it is possible that those in the blue now fade into the grey.  There are always exceptions and some friends can stay in certain zones or move up and down the scale depending on the work put by both parties on the friendship. Very few friendships may ever make it out of the blue zones, now that they are two times removed. Between the time that you knew anyone in that blue zone and the new zone in your current location, you have made many more friends and have experienced many more things in life that those people have no missed out on and vice versa.  Again there is always a chance for friendships to keep in tact it just takes a lot more work and friendships are a two way street.  

This is Pt. I, to read TCK: Saying Goodbye to Friends Pt. II click here. 
For more information on Third Culture Kids, TCKs, and ATCKS

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Photography: ‘Inside a Dream’

Throwback thursday and I bring you today my concept shoot ‘Inside a Dream’.
This was one of my very first shoots back in 2010 on Oahu, Hawaii.
For those of you hoping to travel to Hawaii some day, 
know that there is much more to the island than just the beaches of Waikiki.
My husband and I had done some location scouting 
on one of our hikes in the Nu’uanu area with our kids. 
Amongst the amazing Hawaiian jungle and waterfalls is
the Kaniakapupu ruins, reminders of Oahu’s ancient past. 
It is an amazing and beautiful area and brought to my mind
a feeling of being lost inside storybook. 
My concept was to bring together two characters
lost in a dreamworld. 
Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk 
Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk 
Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk
Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk
Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk

Models: Alysha Busha & Rob Bozada

Make up: Dhyana Leung

Wardrobe: JAM Design

Assistant: +Ryan Aherin 

Hair & Photography: +Bonnie Rose 

 *photos belong to Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk
* For information regarding the use of photography by Bonnie Rose and photographic services contact bonnie[at]bonnie-rose[dot]co[dot]uk

Wedding: 17 Weeks to go

Yesterday my husband and I had been married for nine years and eight months.  We now have four months left until our 10 year wedding anniversary.  That is 17 weeks and two days.  This past October I had my husband and I take couple photos (In the rain no less. Thank you England) with our camera on a timer.  That does not seem so long ago, which makes me realize just how little time we have left to plan.  I had been holding off starting with the invitations because I wanted to make my own hand written with calligraphy   However we really had a small window of time to let friends know so they can RSVP and I was not going to have all my supplies in time.  I let go of that notion and finally came up with a Eco-Friendly wedding website.  There are a lot of options out there for builders and I could have built it myself.  In the end I decided to go with Wix.com so I could move on to the next stages of planning. 
Stationary: Opted for an Eco-friendly Wedding website in lieu of paper invitations.
Pinterest.  I have been pinning things to a ‘Vow Renewal’ board probably since I created my account.  Once we crossed the one year left mark I started getting a little more serious with my planning and pinning of ideas.  I had wanted to do a huge 3-0 birthday last year and when that fell through a lot of my ideas started bleeding over into the Vow Renewal board.  Next I took my OCD and and broke one Vow Renewal board into twelve different ‘I Do Again’ boards for the following categories: Inspiration, Accessories, Attendants, Cakes, Ceremony, Flowers, Hair, Gowns, Invites & Stationary, Menu, Photography, and Reception.  You can check out Bonnie Rose’s Pinterest to view specific pins and other boards.  I wish I had pinterest back in 2002 – 2003 when we were planning our wedding.  I still have my huge white binder with many specific dividers and filled with anything needed for my wedding planning. It became a scrapbook of sorts and it is kinda fun to look through now, ten years later.

Planning: I wish I had Pinterest back in 2003 when I planned our wedding! I have 12 ‘I Do Again’ boards for ideas.
Every Wednesday I will touch on  more of our planning and updates for our 10th Anniversary Vow renewal.  Is anyone else planning a wedding for 2013?  If you are already married would you renew your vows?

*Website photography was a self portrait by Bonnie Rose Photography © 2013 All Rights Reserved | www.bonnie-rose.co.uk

**Website capture from the Wix.com website for the free website builder
***I do not claim to own any photos displayed from the Pinterest boards. 


Travel: Dinner with mia familia in Napoli

I am very passionate about Italian food.
To the point that if you take me to an Italian restaurant outside of Italy,
I will tell you it is not ‘real’ Italian food.
My in-laws insist that that the family owned Italian restaurant
in their small midwest town is authentic because the owner is ‘I-Talian’.
However both the pizza and pasta sauces are so sweet,
you could have fooled me with a jar of processed Prego sauce.
Both do not sit well with my palette or my years from growing up in southern Italy.
I am convinced that any Italians cooking in America cook for the American palette.
Any American-Italians that cook food are cooking ‘American-Italian food’
which is not Italian food.
Which is great. Just do not confuse the two as one.
I am also a purist and I believe that you need certain ingredients like the
salty Mediterranean air to make anything truly authentic.
However I did find one place in Malibu, California that served the closest to the real thing.
I liked the food so much that I made sure to give my compliments personally to the chef.
He was Italian and I give him props for sticking with the pure tastes of Italy.

My husband has had to hear my views on Italian food since before we began dating.
We were in a traveling theatre group at our University and while on a trip
I held my foot down to our group for stopping at Olive Garden for dinner.
I will admit it: I am an ‘Italian food’ snob.
Ten years later my husband finally gets his first (and second and third…) taste
of this amazing food I have not stopped bringing up in conversation.
‘You were right’ he said.
Now he shares my burden.
The burden of all people who have lived or traveled to Italy
and have eaten their hearts out on the beautiful, mouth watering, delicious food.
When you live else where in the world and crave a pizza.
Not just any pizza but pizza from Italy.
Or for us we crave real Neapolitan pizza.
Any kind.
As my husband told my sons yesterday,
 ‘I’ve never had a pizza I did not like in Naples’.
It is comforting knowing I’m married to man who gets me
and who is equally passionate about Italian food.

The one story I used to tell him about often was eating at the houses of
Ada and Maria, two of the women at our Italian church on the coast of Bagnoli.
How the pasta was the best you would ever eat.
How you would be given seconds and thirds.
Followed by courses of salad, cheese, meat, and dessert.
You would eat past the point of being full, unable to tell your host ‘no more’.
It would be amazing.
This past summer my husband got to finally experience that  with my church family.
I will admit I was busy eating and savouring each bite to document the food fully.
But below is a little glimpse into some of the best food and memories
that a girl who grew up in Italy could ask for and then some.
Enjoy.

The busy city of Napoli, Italia became my home twice in my life for a total of six years. 
The meal being prepared by Maria and Ada.
You will never leave hungry. Quite the opposite.   
Must continue to brush up on my Italian vocabulary to keep up in the passionate fast talking conversations.  
Delicious foods that were the ensemble to the main pasta course. 

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FRIEND CONNECT BLOG HOP

It’s Tuesday again which means it’s time for the Friend Connect Blog Hop!
It’s the time to meet new friends and find new blogs. You can choose to follow the cohosts in whatever way is best for YOU! Here are some of my favorite ways: GFC, BlogLovin’, HelloCotton, RSS, Twitter, Facebook.
Ok, so let’s get to the party, shall we?
RULES are simple:
1. Follow your host 
The First link below
2. Follow your co-hosts 
The Next 8 links below
3. Link up below using your main blog url not a specific post.
4. Make sure to visit some of the blogs in the link up and follow them 
and if you want to leave them a comment, I’m sure they’d appreciate that as well.
5. Tweet about this blog hop
6. Share about this blog hop by grabbing a button and putting it on your sidebar!
I have cohost spots available! Email me if you’re interested at melissa@thelifeofanotsoordinarywife.com

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